Note: This is an essay that was written for and published on The Frisky in 2011. However, the site has since shut down and my essay has disappeared… But the internet gods allowed me to find it in its entirety, so I am re-posting it here since a) it was fun to write & b) this piece was an important part of my emotional development so I wanted to continue to share it. Enjoy! I met Omar* at a New Year’s Eve party shortly after graduating college. He was 6’2″ and built with dark brown eyes and black wavy hair that fell below his ears. I was a 5’2″ chubby bookworm who had recently…
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May 2018 Writer’s Life: Recovering from surgery isn’t easy [#yearofwriting]
Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. Last month was rough. I probably worked at about 60% of my capacity, and it certainly showed in my total April 2018 income earned ($2816), which is just over $2k below my goal of $5k a month. That’s really unfortunate, but I kind of figured it would happen since I had surgery in the middle of the month, had to take a week off, and then things didn’t go as well as I hoped with getting back to work. This month, well… it wasn’t all that much better, to be honest. How much I made: $4040 I was only two weeks out…
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December Writer’s Life: How much I made & wrote in 2017 during the #yearofwriting
Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. Well, here we are. It’s the end of my #yearofwriting and I have some hefty writing goals to live up to. I’ll get into more of that later in this post, but first I just wanted to talk about December. What happened in December? Well, for one, it was a VERY busy month for me personally. Not only did I have plenty of socializing and family things to do (what with the holidays and all) but I also got married at the end of the month. Yes, that’s right, I did a big thing and ended my year as a married…
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Why do we still tell women that their lives begin when they get married?
Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. “Tomorrow my life begins.” I can’t even tell you how many times I have heard this phrase uttered on the various wedding blogs, websites, and groups that I have been a part of ever since getting engaged earlier this year. Although, as a society, we are getting married later and later, the notion that a woman’s life truly begins the day that she puts that ring on her finger remains. There are a lot of reasons for this that I don’t particularly want to get into at the moment (the patriarchy, obviously, being one of them) but let me say this:…
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The first time I said “I love you” in a relationship
Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. Exactly one year ago today, I said “I love you” for the very first time in a relationship. That might sound crazy for a variety of reasons: I am 31 years old, I have been in at least two other longterm relationships (lasting two years and 11 months, respectively), I was single and actively dating in NYC for several years, and I have met some good people. But I’ve never fallen in love. During my previous two relationships, I actually did think I was in love at various points throughout those times. But it was never acknowledged by me or the person…
