Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. Well, here we are. It’s the end of my #yearofwriting and I have some hefty writing goals to live up to. I’ll get into more of that later in this post, but first I just wanted to talk about December. What happened in December? Well, for one, it was a VERY busy month for me personally. Not only did I have plenty of socializing and family things to do (what with the holidays and all) but I also got married at the end of the month. Yes, that’s right, I did a big thing and ended my year as a married…
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Why do we still tell women that their lives begin when they get married?
Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. “Tomorrow my life begins.” I can’t even tell you how many times I have heard this phrase uttered on the various wedding blogs, websites, and groups that I have been a part of ever since getting engaged earlier this year. Although, as a society, we are getting married later and later, the notion that a woman’s life truly begins the day that she puts that ring on her finger remains. There are a lot of reasons for this that I don’t particularly want to get into at the moment (the patriarchy, obviously, being one of them) but let me say this:…
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The first time I said “I love you” in a relationship
Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. Exactly one year ago today, I said “I love you” for the very first time in a relationship. That might sound crazy for a variety of reasons: I am 31 years old, I have been in at least two other longterm relationships (lasting two years and 11 months, respectively), I was single and actively dating in NYC for several years, and I have met some good people. But I’ve never fallen in love. During my previous two relationships, I actually did think I was in love at various points throughout those times. But it was never acknowledged by me or the person…
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The reality of dating as a bisexual Latina
Note: This is 2 of 3 essays that was written for and published on The Flama last year. However, the site has since shut down (mostly) and my essay has disappeared… But the internet gods allowed me to find it in its entirety, so I am re-posting it here since a) it was fun to write & b) I hate sexism and want to bring it into the light. Enjoy! My first ever date took me to Johnny Rocket’s for burgers and shakes, and then put his hand over my shoulder at the movies while simultaneously trying to cop a feel. I wasn’t having any of it. It wasn’t a particularly great experience, and…
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Why is it so difficult for us to accept generosity when we date?
Please subscribe to my newsletter to get writing news and updates. We’ve all done this: Signed up for online dating and then spent the next few days or weeks or even months just swiping right on dozens of people. We chat, we flirt, we even go on dates sometimes. The whole point of online dating is to find someone to date, right? But although I suspect many of us venturing into this world want true love, we rarely take a chance and open up to just one person. In the world of casually swiping right, it’s easier to say “sure, why not?” to ten people than to say “yes, definitely” up to…
