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My coming out story

Posted on November 27, 2015June 11, 2017 by Irina Gonzalez

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I’m coming out!

Well, not really. The truth is that I have been “out” for a very long time. But my bisexuality isn’t really something I talk about all that often, and it’s not because I am ashamed (far from it) or anything like that, but simply because I just don’t have all that much to say about it at this point. It is part of who I am, in the same way that being Russian and Cuban or being a writer is integral to my personal sense of self.

Okay, I’m bi. Great! Whatever.

The only time I really talk about it is in personal conversations with friends, when you can likely find me ranting about the perception of bisexual people in the media (not pretty) or in online dating (no, couple on OKCupid, I do not want to join you).

But when a friend (and fellow writer) Amaris Castillo asked me to share my coming out story for Vivala.com, I jumped at the chance. It’s not necessarily a pretty story, but it’s not horrible either.

So, if you’re curious, here is what it was like for me to come out as bisexual to my parents back in 2003, when I was 17. Enjoy!

Oh, and my parents and I have a good relationship now. You know, in case you’re wondering.

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Irina Gonzalez is a journalist, editor, and sober bisexual Latina mom with ADHD. She is the author of the Parenting in Hard Mode newsletter—for those of us who are raising social justice-minded families and getting real about mental health for parents navigating life on the difficult setting. She is also working on an upcoming book on impactful Latinx Americans with The Quarto Publishing Group.

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